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I try my best to confront situations because I know, at the end of the day, you can deal with it or it will deal with you. I’ve had enough experience to know that that’s how it goes down. There’s no going around it.
Jada Pinkett Smith

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Women are blessed with intuition, endless love, curiosity and a certain amount of feistiness. In most cultures, these inherent attributes that make a woman whole and wonderful, are often suppressed since childhood. The suppression may be circumstantial or induced by people that are around. And these suppressions regress and obstruct a woman’s growth towards self-actualization.

By circumstantial I mean growing up in a poor neighbourhood or living in a violent society, which may make a child feel as if their chances to be successful are limited. And by ‘induced by people’, I am referring to parents, siblings and other people who a child is constantly accompanied by people who may be violent, ignorant or abusive, which may lead the child to see the same in every one they meet. Why I separated the two is because although they may seem similar, a circumstantial hardship like poverty or violence can be countered if your parents or company is positive and nurturing.

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But it is not always possible that the people around will save you. They may be loving, nurturing and helpful but most times you have to save yourself.

Save your YOU-NESS, discover it, chase after it and let it soar.

Jada Pinkett Smith is one such example who has suffered losses in her personal front despite which she is one of the most versatile and beloved actresses and personalities in Hollywood. She never let her internal turmoil affect how she played the game of life and most importantly she never gave up on herself. 

The Year of Jada Pinkett Smith

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If I could describe Jada Pinkett Smith, it would be INCREDIBLE! I honestly feel like 2018 has been THE year for her and she has been glowing and popping like never before. I mean I always admired her as an actress and thought she was beyond beautiful, but I never realized what a deeply spiritual, wise and inspirational woman she is. Everything she says comes from a place of deep understanding, intuition and wisdom.

The Red table Talk Effect

One of the main factors that led to her rise as what I like to refer to as the #RealTalkMaster, is her show Red Table Talk. Here she sits down with her mother Adrienne and daughter Willow and talk love, pain, divorce, race, depression and break down a wide range of stigmas and rumors. The show teaches you a lot, I mean where else can you get to hear three generations of women interact and discuss real issues.

I felt Jada Pinkett Smith deserved a special post is because of the type of person she is. She is a lover and a fighter.

A little back story…

Jada was born in Baltimore, Maryland in 1971. She was raised by her mother and grandmother and spent her childhood and adolescence pursuing the arts. She attended the Baltimore school of arts where she met Tupac Amaru Shakur. They were thick as thieves and the rapper’s death had a huge impact on her life, as he was one of the closest male figures she had in her life. Fun fact: During the time when Jada and Tupac became friends she was a drug dealer.

*Tupac is my favourite rapper of all time, and as Jada is someone who connected with him so deeply, it makes me feel more connected to her.

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After college her first permanent role was on a show called “A Different World”, which was also running during the same time as “The Fresh Prince of Bel Air”, which starred her husband Will Smith (y’all know who he is right?).  Her career is vibrant and diverse, and a true expression of who Jada is an artist.

Besides acting she has given birth to and raised two children Jaden and Willow with her husband Will. She is also singer-songwriter, a music producer and a writer. Wow! Talk about multi-talented. Jada Pinkett Smith is an avid reader, a habit she cultivated as a child.

I am sure I am not the only one who feels totally enamored when she speaks. She has a way with words, and her intensity and intention can be felt with every word. She is a huge advocate of self-love.

Now I am going to share with you my top-6 Jada Pinkett Smith video moments that have truly transformed and inspired my life:

1.It’s Not Your Fault

I do not think she was actually talking about Will but her advice was spot on. You cannot blame yourself when your partner cheats, or when a friend betrays you. It is not your fault, you have remained loyal. But sometimes the other person may look past you and choose to do what is best for them or may give in to temporary pleasures. You must remember that if this has ever or if it ever happens to you, the decision to  stay and align yourself with these people is yours.

2. Love After Devastation

Love and hurt go hand in hand. One cannot expect to be in love and not get hurt. You are so intertwined with your partner in a relationship, that you forget that they are human. You put them on a pedestal and you are so deeply connected to them. If they break your heart, you have to decide to continue to stay with them or love them from afar. They have so much power over you, but don’t ever let it seep into how you see yourself, it must never deteriorate your self-impression.

3. You should know how to make you happy

Sexual pleasure for women is a concept unheard of or very rarely acknowledged in most cultures. Women are usually considered to be a medium for men to attain pleasure. But we mustn’t fall into such traps. I am going to stop beating the bush here, and get straight to the climax: learn to get yourself off. If you don’t know how to make you happy, there is no way anyone else can either.

4. Your Marriage Is Your Own

Now marriage is precious for most married couples. At least at first. But in most cases after a while, people tend to forget why they got married in the first place. You become dependent and then it turns to hatred. What people must remember is that a marriage is as unique as the people in it. So there is no one way to do it right. It’s a partnership based on communication and compromise. You have to figure out  how to create a marriage that make both individuals happy, so that at the end of every night you can go to bed with the knowledge that you have the endless love and support of your partner. I am not going to have any use for this knowledge any time soon but it is good to know, you know?

5. Make Yourself Happy First

Self-love and acceptance is the cure to a lot of our problems. This is why YOU must always be your number one priority. Remember when you are running trying to get things done, to take a beat and think did I do everything I want to do today? Am I going to feel accomplished at the end of the night? If the answer is no, you may not be giving yourself the time and attention you need.

6. It’s Never Too Late to Make Amends
On Red Table Talk, Gabrielle Union and Leah Remini (on two separate episodes), were invited by Jada to discuss their differences and uncover the dirt behind why she was unable to be friends with them for over a decade. Both women hit Jada with some real talk. She realized that the two women had not talked to her for years due to some misunderstandings between them.  Both for very different reasons of course, but it had led to no communication for over a decade.
The women extended an olive branch and made amends despite how much time had passed. This is a big lesson for everyone, you must never be too proud to apologize to or make amends with someone you care about or never meant to hurt.

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Though she may come off as a very confident person, it was very difficult for Jada to learn to love herself. Through meditation, reading and communication she has been able to become a woman worthy of her own love. The Red Table Talk has also become her medium to answer deep rooted questions within her which helps further her journey towards self-actualization.

I just want to take a moment to celebrate and salute fighting spirits like Jada Pinkett Smith. I know everyone has their own beliefs and opinions about her and her family, but I still felt the need to make a post to showcase this side of her, that leaves me spellbound and inspired.

I hope you liked this post. If you have any more inspiring people you would like me to talk about or un-code a few of their most crucial messages to the world, then please leave your suggestions in the comments below.