Disclaimer: Everything in this blog is based on my ideals and perceptions. I do not wish to impose this upon anyone. If you agree, great, if you don’t please do not be offended.
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. “ – Aristotle
How well do you really know yourself?
I am pretty sure we have all got the basics down, your favourite colour, actor, food etc. But I am talking about the cold hard truths about yourself.
Just to set things straight, I would like to clarify that when I say embrace loneliness, I mean learn to enjoy your own company.
How many of us can confidently say that we are comfortable being alone?
Knowing yourself is different from being sure of yourself and your abilities. Knowing yourself is a gift that very few are blessed with in their lifetime. People are self aware from childhood, but not many are in tune with their intuitions.
Achieving greatness, changing lives and doing great things cannot come without being in touch with your gut feeling and thoughts. It was possible in the old days, shove your feelings to the side and hustle, and you would eventually get there. But the world we live in today is far too different, people are innovating from all corners of the globe, from their rooms, garages and kitchen floors. If you try to fit the mould and do what everyone is doing chances are you are going to be bored and actually lonely. The sad truth is many of us are unaware of what we are capable of because we are not in tune with who we really are.
The only way you can survive, thrive and actually live your best life is by being the best YOU. Read on to know how to be alone and where to draw the line and avoid total social isolation.
The Stigma behind Being Alone
A lot of people tend to believe that doing things alone is something to be afraid or even ashamed of. If you feel people will judge you for it, you are not wrong. But it’s only because they can’t handle being alone and are in constant need of companionship. These people tend to get bored with themselves, and are usually depressed when they spend time in their own company. Why should their inability to accept themselves cause you to reduce the time you spend getting to know yourself?
The best way to learn the most about yourself is to spend time alone.
What do you do when you are alone: Are you happy? Are you sad? Are you itching to make plans or ask someone to come over? Do you waste time by scrolling through your Instagram feed?
Wouldn’t it be so much better if you knew exactly what to do when you are alone? Ever come across super confident people, the kind who have more opinions than ‘I don’t know’’, and somehow have the time to do it all. They are this way because they have spent time figuring out what works for them, how much time they need to do tasks and how to live life in the most efficient and enjoyable manner. Remember alone time doesn’t always mean time where you are totally alone without anyone else in a room. Alone time could be doing things on your own eating, attending concerts, shopping etc. You should be able to be in a room filled with people and be able to listen to your inner thoughts.
Do you listen to yourself when you are surrounded by people or do you just listen to others?
I would like to introduce my own theory to complicate things a little more. Don’t worry, it will all become much clearer at the end of the post. Please bear with me, I promise this is interesting.
The Apartment Person Vs the House Person Theory
An apartment person loves their space. If they are ever in a room with people for too long, they need to go back home and just be alone and away from people for a while. And they may be a little more extreme like I am, where even if you are not spending time with a 100 people, and it’s just one for a long time, you still need a break from them. If I spend six hours with a person, I would rather spend the next six hours without that person, and be with other people or by myself.
A house person loves people. Whether they know them, don’t know them, it doesn’t matter, they WILL talk to you. They love to socialize and have many friends. They may not be close to all of them, but they have plenty of friends to go around. They would rather not spend time with themselves and be with other constantly. When they are alone, they tend to get sad and depressed.
Don’t think alone time is necessary only if you are an apartment person and not if you are a house person. Usually the former finds a way to spend time with themselves and really fine tune their inner thoughts, beliefs, opinions, and intuitions. It is the latter who forgets themselves while solving other peoples’ problems and have fluid thoughts, beliefs, opinions, intuitions, and are in dire need of spending some quality time with themselves.
Why is “Me Time” More Important Now More Than Ever
Unfortunately, due to the advent of social media, people forget that scrolling is not an actual hobby, a good habit or even a decent use of your time. We are so caught up in what others are doing or showing other that our life is as good as theirs, that we forget that we are losing precious time in a pointless, winner-less competition.
This tends to make us feel lonelier as if no one will understand us and no one actually cares about us. Don’t worry if you haven’t found your people yet. It’s okay, it’s only because you are not sure of the people you need in your life. When you start to spend some quality time getting to know yourself, what kind of people you wish to be around will also become clearer.
6 Great Ways to Spend Time With Yourself Daily
Watch inspiring videos, TED talks, listen to podcasts and more. Learn about your field or about how you can be a better version of yourself.
2. Peace Out
You are free to interpret this one however you like, but my favourite two ways to chill out includes bubble baths and meditating with Headspace.
3. Prep It Up
Prepare for the next day in advance, decide what you are going to wear and what you are going to carry for launch.
4. Set a Routine
I really don’t care whether it’s a workout-routine, elaborate skin care routine, or a night time before you sleep routine. Create one and follow it daily.
5. Level Up
Our mind’s potential is endless, are you making full use of it? Read a few pages of a book or learn a new language etc. Expand your mind, utilize your full potential.
6. To Do List
Make a list of things you have to do the next
Where to Draw the Line
It’s time for some #RealTalk.
If you make plans, and want to cancel it the night of, sleep for hours, have no motivation to get out of bed and are not making real improvement in your life, and as a result of these actions tend to spend a lot of time alone, DO NOT THINK THIS IS QUALITY TIME WITH YOURSELF.
You are stuck in a rut, and lazy, it’s time to get up, research and understand your options and show up to all commitments. If not, it’s just a downward spiral from here.
Get off your ass and spend some time with the most important person in the world YOU. If you’re no good, you’re no good to others either.
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