Are you about to face a really challenging time in your life?
Or maybe you are already in the eye of the storm?
Is it a career you are changing? Or trying to get into a new college?
Perhaps you are looking for a new house or locating to a new city or country altogether?
Maybe you are facing a loss in terms of a friend or lover.
Whatever the challenge you may be, I want you to remember one phrase,
“This too shall pass”.
I know what you are thinking,
“It sure doesn’t feel like it!”
And I get that, I really do. I have felt the same way many times in my life.
And every time I think I get a little better at managing the internal and external chaos, that’s when life throws a new challenge my way.
We’re all aware of the easy solution to tackle your feelings:
Succumb to the overwhelm.
Roll about in it and cry and say “Why me? What did I ever do to deserve this?”
Sure, go ahead do that. But only for a little bit.
It’s a total waste of energy and time, that’s why.
Once you have cried a tiny waddle pool and dwelled in self-pity, it is time to pull yourself up by the socks, shoes, heels, flip-flops or whatever else you like to or don’t like to (if you are into the barefoot movement) wear on your feet and get your shit together.
No good comes from anxiety or breaking down.
Learn how to mentally prepare yourself for any challenge that may come your way by reading the rest of this post!
So here I am your little anxiety helper to assist you to break through overwhelm, climb out of the well of self-pity, and get pro-active.
My methods are simple but effective.
5 Steps on how to mentally prepare yourself for any challenge
There are two ways to do it.
- Talk about it
- Write about it
Either way, you need an outlet. If you don’t have anyone that you feel comfortable enough to talk about the situation at hand, just talk to yourself. Open the recording app on your phone and speak away.
But if it is possible I highly recommend you phone a friend, someone who will listen and just be there for you as much as possible.
Option b is to write it down. Get a journal and jot down your feelings. It’s such a stress-buster and can help you get so much clarity about your own thoughts and feelings.
One of the recent tips I learned from an interview with Radhi Devlukia (that I recommend you should incorporate into your journaling) is to write down what happened and how you felt followed by what you wish you could have changed about what happened, how you reacted and how you felt.
For example, if you went to the grocery store and flipped it on the bag boy for not separating the colds and the hots then you can write:
“Today I went to the grocery store. There an annoying bag boy ruined my mood by not packing my grocery items right. Like, that is his only job, what is his problem? I called him names and stormed out of the store.
What I wish I would have felt and done?
I wish I didn’t get angry so quickly. My feelings are on edge and I should have better control over it. That bag boy did not deserve my anger. I wish I would have remained calm and politely asked him to pack the stuff exactly how I wanted it to be packed. I feel bad I treated him that way and I must remember to keep my cool when a situation like this arises again.”
I know it sounds like you are talking to a toddler, but you basically are a toddler if you are in the process of unlearning, relearning, and self-discovery. You have got to teach yourself how to feel and behave from scratch if you want to be the master of anxiety.
2.Give Yourself A Pep-Talk
Again this can be verbally or through journaling.
Now the ugly truth is that it doesn’t matter that your friends and family believe in you.
I am sorry.
The only person whose belief matters in a tough situation is your own.
You need to believe in yourself.
Here’s a simple affirmation mantra to get you through a bad time,
“ I am strong, I am calm and I am confident.
All is well.
Everything is working out for my highest good.
Only good can come out of this situation.”
3.What do you want?
When you are in the middle of a challenging situation it is easy to lose sight of what you want. The options come in from every corner and due to the detachment from your true self and intuition, you find it even more difficult to make decisions than usual.
I have a trick for that as well. I am sure a simple pros and cons list works extremely well in a situation like this but sometimes that is just not enough. This is the part where we need to consult with our higher self or superior self before our crisis self.
If you have been on the self-discovery journey for a while like me, you would have written your goals, dreams, and wishes for the year in advance. Whether it is on a piece of paper or a vision book it doesn’t matter. Refer to it and determine what your whole self would have wanted.
Make your decision based on what the real, optimistic, and positive you would have wanted not the confused, anxious, and fearful you.
The real you knows what you truly need.
There is no better guiding light than yourself.
4. Forget about it
Yes, you read that right.
Now that you have wallowed in your grief, addressed your problems head-on, convinced yourself that you can handle it and determined what you want, now all you have to do is forget about it.
Take a day off from your problems.
This is the kind of advice that sounds so tempting and terrifying at the same time.
But trust me friends, it works.
The anxious mind is like an athlete on steroids.
Let it go.
Do something you have been meaning to do for a while. Go watch a movie, take a class, and catch up with some friends. Whatever sparks joy in you that’s what you need to do.
The key that you need to understand about how to mentally prepare yourself for any challenge mainly lies in knowing when to let go. There is only so much an anxious over-thinker like you and me can handle.
So just take a step back and have a little fun.
It will be difficult to take your mind off the problem completely I am sure.
When the thought crops up, say “hi”, to it and then say “I will see you tomorrow”, because who are we kidding we will be thinking about it again tomorrow.
Taking a break provides you with the mental clarity you need to make your next decisions.
5. Just Do It
I know my subheadings make understanding how to mentally prepare yourself for any challenge seem super simple but it’s not. The steps are easy but you need to be willing to put in the work.
Now that you know what you want and you can think a little clearer, do what you have to do.
Make those calls, book those tickets, apply for that job or college, take those extra classes, have those uncomfortable conversations.
Whatever it is, just do it.
There is a chance that things will not always pan out the way you want to, but that is not an excuse to take a deep dive into the anxiety pool again.
It’s a chance to remember to be open, dynamic and adaptive.
You can do anything you set your mind to as long as you set your mind to it.
Following this process will help you understand where your thoughts and emotions are coming from, discover new and old triggers, and bring you a step closer towards self-discovery.
An important takeaway for all anxious over-thinkers is to always have your highest true selves’ thoughts and vision written down in a place where you can easily refer to it.
Whenever you are in the middle of a challenge and find it hard to make choices, think “What would my higher self want me to do?” and do that.
I hope you found this post on how to mentally prepare yourself for any challenge helpful. If you have any suggestions for other posts or any feedback just let me know in the comments below.