I am sure most of you reading this are well aware of the phenomenon that is Michelle Obama.
She oozes strength, charisma, and confidence and is an inspiration for lawyers, women, and people from marginalized backgrounds from across the world.
Her story begins on the south side of Chicago where she was born and raised. And if you thought you would get a little synopsis of the book ‘Becoming’ by Michelle Obama, you have come to the wrong place.
I really wish that you would take the time to read her book that gives insight into the challenges she faced in her childhood, teenage years, career, romantic endeavors, and womanhood. An incredible story about an empowering woman who chose to go on the journey to create her mark in a man’s world.
It’s very rare that First Ladies of the United States of America get the kind of love, adoration, respect, and admiration that she has garnered, and it is definitely well deserved.
LESSONS I LEARNT FROM BECOMING MICHELLE OBAMA
9. When people show up for you, pay heed to their efforts
We interact with so many people in our day to day lives. But when some of those people take time out of their schedules and do things for you out of the goodness of their heart, acknowledge that. Make them feel seen.
In a scene in her documentary about the Becoming Michelle Obama book tour, Michelle interacts with fans who have stood for hours to get their books signed. She talks to each and every single one of them and ensures that their efforts to meet her aren’t in vain.
8. There will always be people who talk bad about you – Develop Thick Skin
Not everyone will accept you as you are. Some may look down on what makes you different, others may be intimidated, and others jealous. She believes it’s important to develop thick skin and be confident about what you have to offer.
Many times while Michelle Obama was campaigning for her husband, former President of the U.S Barack Obama, there would be many articles and videos released degrading her on her appearance and her clothes. They would bring her down in every which way possible, but she continued to wear power suits and skirts after conducting intensive research on weather conditions and surface analysis every day. She has now become one of the world’s most memorable fashion icons.
7. Everyones’ story has a purpose you never know who you might inspire
You may think your life is simple, not that interesting or that your battles aren’t worth talking about. But Michelle Obama believes it’s quite the contrary. Everyone has a story that is worth being listened to. Don’t be afraid to share yours.
She would invite people to have special interactions with at schools and libraries during her Becoming Michelle Obama book tour and ask people to share their stories. Many of them didn’t believe they were doing anything spectacular, but she wanted to make them feel heard.
6. Make yourself happy first – Look out for yourself’
Your partner, your friend, or your family are not responsible for your happiness, only you are. Don’t blame them for doing things you wish you could do, make it happen.
After giving birth, Michelle Obama suffered from postpartum depression. She would see her husband Barack Obama go out to campaign and work out, while she was hardly able to keep track of her job and fulfill her desire to be at home with her daughters. She decided that instead of blaming her husband, she would rather do what she wanted to do by any means necessary. Michelle got her mother to look after her kids when she couldn’t, reduced her workload and took herself to the gym to get in a workout.
5. Don’t be afraid to admit that you could be the problem
Sometimes you can be so caught up in finding all the problems in the people around you that you fail to take accountability for your own shortcomings. It’s necessary to take a long hard look in the mirror while braving tumultuous waters in any meaningful relationship to understand what you can be doing better too.
In her book Becoming Michelle Obama opens up about going to couples counseling with Barack Obama. She admits that during their first few sessions she would get agitated when the counselor would ask her questions and ask them, “Why are you asking me questions? I’m perfect! Look at him.”
4. Individuality over Fitting In
Fitting in is overrated. It’s not always easy to do what feels right to you, but if it matches your calling and you believe it will be impactful, there is no choice but to do it.
Michelle Obama admits that she didn’t want to be one of those First Ladies who are just remembered for existing. She wanted to make a difference in ways that only she could. From gardening, dancing, promoting campaigns to reduce obesity, and improving education for girls all over the world, Michelle Obama has revolutionized the capacity of the First Lady by just being herself.
3. Make time for the people you care about
You can never get to where you want to be all on your own. There are usually always a few people who highly influence your personality, happiness and quality of life. Make time for these people.
Michelle Obama always ensured that she made time for the people she cared about. The Obamas had dinner together every night they were at the White House and hosted sleepovers for her daughters. She even goes on girls’ trips with all the important women in her life and continues to be very close to her mother and brother to this day.
2. Support can look different for everyone
When someone chooses to support you or you choose to support someone in their dreams and endeavours, it may not always look like the way you imagined it to be. But nonetheless, credit must be given where credit is due.
Michelle Obama would campaign on behalf of her husband in states on occasions where he had committed to being somewhere else on the same night. On the night Barack Obama first became the President of the United States of America, they had to attend one event after the other. She made it through until the last one at the White House and decided to call it a night, after powering through all the others. She went to bed while the party went on at the White House. And Barack Obama has always supported and appreciated her efforts of supporting him in his dream of becoming the President of the United States of America.
1.Have a support system that you can depend on
It’s important to have an inner circle of friends and family that you trust and whose opinions you value. These are the people who keep you grounded and inspire you to shoot for the stars.
Michelle has her group of girlfriends whose advice she seeks when she needs it. She admires and respects all of these women and continues to seek their counsel and support in her life to this day.
I hope you enjoyed this post on the Lessons I Learnt from Becoming Michelle Obama. It is a mini-review of her book and documentary, without giving away much of the storyline.
Michelle Obama is truly an icon who has spread her wings far beyond the limitations of her circumstances. She is the epitome of hard work and compassion. And I sincerely hope you find the information I have shared about her and little snippets of her wisdom helpful.
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